By Krystina | #Wheelstrong

It’s funny how many of us stay in relationships out of convenience,
fear,
history,
or straight-up denial.

How many of us dread walking through our own front door
because it’s not peace waiting on the other side…
it’s a damn war zone.

So we distract ourselves.
Work more.
Hit the gym.
Scroll endlessly.
Drink. Smoke. Anything to avoid going home.

Because home?
It stopped feeling like home a long time ago.

Home should be your sanctuary.
The place where you take off your armor…
not where you have to gear up.

But for so many of us, it’s the opposite.
We don’t exhale when we walk in.
We brace ourselves.

Too many of us are out here fighting losing battles
with the same person we once swore was our forever.

I lost my battle.
And then I lost my life.

No, not in some dramatic, metaphorical way.
I literally lost everything.
And all because I didn’t want to be “that girl”
who broke up another family.

I didn’t want the shame.
Didn’t want the judgment.
So I stayed.
Stuck in a cycle of blind love and desperate hope.

Until the universe hit me with a loud-ass:

“WAKE UP.”

Here’s the truth:

Some relationships just can’t be fixed.
Not everything can be patched up with therapy and good intentions.

If both people aren’t all in,
it doesn’t matter how much love there is.

Because without trust?
That love becomes heavy.
And eventually…
it sinks you.

Especially in a world where temptation is always one swipe away,
where validation is instant,
and loyalty is rare…

If you don’t have trust, you don’t have shit.

We forget that all those flashy little distractions…
the texts, the flings, the “likes”….
none of it means anything
when you’re facing your demons in the dark
and you just want someone to hold your hand
and not let go.

We stopped investing in each other.
Now we just dispose of people
at the first sign of discomfort.

One little hiccup,
and suddenly it’s easier to ghost
than to grow.

But real love?
Real love isn’t disposable.
It’s work.
It’s forgiveness.
It’s showing up even when it’s hard as hell.

But that only works
if both people are fighting for the same damn thing.